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Let Me Count the Ways

Monday, September 19th, 2011

Today is September 19th and today Daniel and I have been married 19 years. My children call their birthday like this their “Golden Birthday.” (This year Sarah turned 9 on August 9th. Most of the children (all but Esther) won’t have goldens until they are in their second decade.) While Daniel and I aren’t even half-way to our what is typically thought of as a golden anniversary (50 years), this anniversary – 19 on the 19th has a special-ness to it for me. I’m calling it our pre-golden anniversary. In honor of 19 on the 19th, here are 19 things I love about my wonderful husband.

1. He loves God. Plain and simple. He models spiritual disciplines for me. He reads the Word. He reads the Word to our children. (Yes, I’m cheating. These are really 4 already but I have a lot to list 🙂

2. He fills our home with music. For those of  you who’ve heard my husband sing, you know what I’m talking about. Evenings when he pulls out his guitar and practices Sunday morning worship songs are like a bit of Heaven on Earth. I’m blessed and thankful God saw to it that our children inherit their Daddy’s musical genes

3. He loves me. On our wedding day he was captured on video saying, “I think I love you now, but I know I really don’t even know how. I look forward to spending the rest of my life learning how to better love you.” For 19 years, he has done just that – even when I’ve been pretty unlovable!

4. He loves people. The man I married in not critical. He sees good in everyone. People sense this. So often folks will tell me, “Your husband is so sweet and gentle. ” That is because they genuinely feel liked by him (and they are.)

5. He works on his weaknesses. Everyone has them. The man I married is 19 years sweeter and gentler than he was when I married him. (And he wasn’t bad then.)

6. He loves our children. Yesterday our pastor said that many men (maybe the average man?) spends an average of 60 seconds a week communicating with his children. Unfathomable.

7. He is efficient and organized. Daniel makes me look good in this way. My true friends know I’m disorganized by nature – yet thanks to him, I have color-coded (by family member) calendars on my iPhone and an integrated shopping list (he can add it/ I’ll get the memo while shopping). Everything techi works beautifully in this household. If up to me, we’d be the only family on the planet without a home computer.

8. He makes my coffee every morning and flavors it just right.

9. He says thank you a lot and asks the children to do the same.

10. He sees when I need a break even when I don’t see it myself. While I always feel some child should run errands with me (suffer from the “I don’t give individual time enough” syndrome), he’ll often insist I go alone. Same for women’s retreats, friend time, etc. Never has he encouraged me to stay home when he feels a time away would benefit me.

11. He is a good disciplinarian – very balanced and fair, yet he has high expectations. The children do not argue with him. I’m not as consistent and prone to changing my mind. I’m the one who’s read every parenting book written. Not Daniel. He doesn’t need to.

12. He tells me I’m pretty, often when I need to hear it most.

13. He loves his parents and mine and all our extended family. He’d do anything for them. He is extremely loyal.

14. He smiles at young children and babies.

15. He reads to the children. Most importantly, he reads the Bible and devotions to them. However, we’ve enjoyed the entire Narnia series as a family as well as countless missionary stories and historical fiction.

16. He enjoys giving. Very often, he’ll ask, “How much should we send to (a missionary, ministry, friend, need, etc)?” Almost always, his desire is to give more than I. I am challenged by that and so thankful to be married to  such a cheerful giver.

17. He is punny. I mean funny. Few folks enjoy a play on words more than Daniel. The children think his ability to make puns off the top of his head is brilliant 🙂

18. He loves traditions.

19. On every anniversary he tells me, “I’d marry you again, but I’m glad I don’t have to.”

This post took me exactly 18 minutes to write. Sorry it’s unedited. It’s a crazy Monday – a day I leave the house at 8 and won’t be home until 9:30!

Happy pre-golden anniversary to us!