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Happy New Year!

Tuesday, January 3rd, 2012

This blog has been on a long extended break of activity. I, however, haven’t. It has been a busy semester. I had full intentions of posting often about our new Tapestry of Grace homeschool co-op. I’d had intentions of keeping up with my 1,000 Gifts list. I’d wanted to post cute videos and pictures and have this little spot on the web be my online scrapbook for all of my 5 readers (like my mom, mother-in-law and sis). However, while I have been busy, this blog has been quiet.

So dear readers, welcome to my quarterly post 🙂

Here are some things I do wish to accomplish in 2012…

Read the Bible daily

Exercise regularly

Spend more one-on-one time with my children

Read more books

And that is it. I’m not much on New Year’s Resolutions. I don’t like to set myself up for failure. However, I love spending time with my kids. I just need to be more intentional. I tend to think the special times will happen as I grab one and go to the store but such is not the case. So, I want to go on breakfast dates and really get them alone. I’m looking forward to this. I also love exercising and plan to get a little in daily. As far as books, I used to read lots of them. Sadly, computer time has replaced much of my book-reading time… and I miss it.

Two books I really enjoyed last year are 1000 Gifts by Ann Voskamp and Made to Crave by Lysa Terquist. What were your favorites? I’d like to make a reading list for this year and I’d love suggestions.

Happy 2012. Maybe this year I’ll post more than every 3 months. Then again, if I really stick to my list and keep teaching and feeding all my kiddos, maybe not 🙂

A False Reality

Wednesday, February 9th, 2011

If only Alexander had a blog....

I had an interesting conversation with a friend this evening at Panera about the false reality that blogging and social media creates. I’m afraid I’m guilty of contributing to this. I don’t want to write about “Tina and the terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day.” When I write, it is my goal to encourage others. My mother taught me long ago that whining is not allowed. Thus, I tend to write cheerfully or not at all. Yet, just in case anyone is wondering, my house is a mess, my children often fuss, I sometimes spend the whole day in my pajamas and occasionally I’m just plain old grumpy and have to apologize to my family for sporting a ‘tude. I’m selfish with my time. I’m impatient. My three year old watches way too many videos. I haven’t exercised in 8 days. There. Feel better?

Seriously, I think that blogging, facebook, twitter (which I don’t use) and whatever other social media exists can create a false reality and this can be damaging – especially to our young people. Those of us who grew up without knowing everyone’s business also know that just as we untag ugly pictures of ourselves, everyone else does too. We know our friends’ two year olds throw fits once in a while. No one’s life is perfect. However, our teens don’t realize this. They see the parties they missed. They see “wall to wall” conversations they weren’t invited to join. They wonder if they are the only ones having to work on a snow day when, according to status updates, everyone else is on the slopes. They spend ridiculous amounts of time looking at their friends’ smiley albums and videos. They wonder why no one “likes” what they say or do. They feel left out, alone and maybe even depressed. Compared to the very happy life of their facebook and bloggy friends, their life stinks.

It’s up to us (parents) to help our teens with reality checks. These are some of my thoughts of things we can do:

1. Encourage them to be sensitive with their own postings.

My girls have seen many party pictures they wish they’d attended. Thus, when one of my girls took fun videos at her birthday, I encouraged her not to post the video for all her friends to see. I reminded her that not all of her friends were invited. I had to limit the guests to about 8 so I could fit everyone in my van. “How would you feel if _____ saw this?” What started off as a fun way to relive a silly moment could easily hurt a friend. Needless to say, the video wasn’t posted publicly. Teaching children to think about others is important. Of course, we can’t control what others post but in talking about such situations, our teens can learn that usually, if they feel left out, it’s not the intent of their “friends” for them to feel that way.

2. Help them to invest in real life friendships.

Being the social director of teens and tweens is hard, but I think it is very, very important. They are driven to want to be around their peers. When my children were little, I did not drive them around to play dates often. I had 5 children under the age of 7 and couldn’t handle more than that. They played with one another. They still do. However, now they crave friendships outside of the family and I believe that is because they are hard-wired that way. They won’t be under my roof forever. Investing in relationships is healthy. Learning to be a loyal friend is important. I am so thankful that all my children have meaningful, deep friendships. They don’t need 700 facebook friends. What they need are a few (or even one!) dear real life friends whom they really know. Real friends bring joy!

3. Limit their time on facebook, blogs, etc.

Our kids need to be doing other things. They need to be living – not just watching others live.

4. Help them stay active.

Everyone needs to get their wiggles out. Even teens. (Even moms, I think). Exercise produces endorphins which really do make you happy – much more so than looking at other peoples’ vacation pictures.

5. Talk, talk, talk to them about everything!

I’ve asked my girls many, many times details about their friends’ posts. My girls are often shocked that I notice issues and bring them to their attention. My point is that I want my children to see that public postings are viewed by everyone on their friends’ list – even old people like their mother. It’s my goal for them to evaluate everything they say and learn not to take everything they read at face value.

6. Direct them to daily count their blessings.

Ann Voskamp at A Holy Experience has taught me so much about gratitude. This discipline is life changing.

7. Model responsibility.

I hope my children see me investing WAY more in real life friendships than any social media. I pray they see me active – working in my home and investing in REALITY! They are my reality. My husband is my reality. My church and my friends and extended family are my reality. I pray they would see me use social media as a way to minister; to see needs and meet them… not to gossip or value someone else’s world more than my own!

How about you? Have you been affected by this “false reality” world of social media? I have, on occasion, and when I am I know it’s time to take a break from it and refocus! Have your children experienced this? What have you done to help them with reality checks?

Will You Be My Friend?

Wednesday, January 26th, 2011

As if “Facebook friending” weren’t enough, I have another friend request. My techie-hating self figured out how to do the “Google friend connect” thingy on my blog. It’s not that I care to have “followers” although I’m sure it appears that I do. There may be a better way to have blog subscribers. I have no idea. So why did I do it?

I’d like to do some curriculum reviews for The Old Schoolhouse Magazine and a requirement for that is to have a Google friend connect on my blog. My assumption is that I’d also need a few people that actually subscribe. So… if you read my blog would you consider being my friend? Just look to the bottom of my sidebar on the right and click “join.” You will then be walked through the steps of setting up a Google account if you don’t already have one.

Thanks so much, dear friends!

A Blog Award Nomination!

Monday, November 8th, 2010

I have been nominated for The Homeschool Post’s Best Encourager award! Wow!

I do not blog to receive nominations or blogging awards though I’ll admit this nomination is an honor. My blog is fairly new and I began it to keep family and friends updated on my dad who had a heart transplant earlier this year. From there, I began writing about things I find praise-worthy. It is an outlet for me to express the joy I have in my Lord and the daily things He teaches me through my life as a wife and mother. If you are new, here are a few posts that are representative of this site:

Toilet Training In Less Than A Decade

Someone Else’s Law

Teaching Children to Write

My Ugly Mother’s Day Cake

Homeschooling Kindergarten – You Can Do It!

If you are so inclined, please cast your vote for my blog. Just click here and scroll until you see The Best Encourager category. Click and you will see a list of blogs where The Jobe Journal is listed. Click in the little circle next to my name. That’s it! Each computer can only vote once.

Thanks for stopping by!

Relevant

Friday, October 8th, 2010

Relevant is a conference for Christian bloggers. It’s sold out. It starts on a Thursday. It doesn’t make sense that I can attend and I may not (um… most likely) won’t be able to go.

I saw information about it a couple of weeks ago and dismissed it. It’s not practical. It cost money. It’s coming up in just two weeks and I am not, by nature, very spontaneous. This is normally a good thing. It’s hard for a homeschooling mom (or any mom for that matter!) to be gone a couple of days. I talked myself out of even discussing it with my husband.

After attempting to mentally dismiss the conference, I wrote about potty training. This post, which was written for about thirty women in my church, was read by a thousand. It seemed to resonate with many and I am thankful. I don’t desire to have a widely-read blog, but I do desire to minister and encourage women. This has happened a couple of times through my posts and I am amazed that the Lord brings people to read anything I write. Very humbling.  The Lord is encouraging me to continue and I don’t know why.

… And I keep thinking about Relevant, the conference for bloggers. And I pray about it, and I’m having a hard time dismissing it from my mind.

I want to go. Mentors of mine – Sally Clarkson and Ann Voskamp – will be there. I spent a whole year studying Educating The Wholehearted Child with a group of ladies in my home. This book encouraged me in my early years of teaching my children. Over the years, I’ve bought many copies to give to mothers with homeschooling in their hearts. Sally has ministered to me through her blog and her books more than any author I can recall. Ann Voskamp’s writings minister to me as well. I read Holy Experience as often as I can. Friends of mine, Crystal, whom I’ve never met and Sarah, my real life friend who goes to my church, will be there.

I read Sally’s blog post this morning and cried. Her post on loving Jesus in the busyness of life resonates deeply with me. I saw she’d be at Relevant and found myself praying that I could somehow attend. I mentioned this desire to Sarah who sent me to a contest. I entered at A Million Boxes and part of the entering process is to blog about the give-away.

We’ll see. Not winning means someone else needs to go more. I believe that. Yet if I win, I am going to thank the Lord for such a  gift and make every effort to be there!